Loneliness is Real

“I lie awake.
I am like a lonely bird on a housetop.” 

Psalm 102:7, NCV 

 “The first time I defended myself, no one helped me; everyone left me. May they be forgiven.”  

   2 Timothy 4:16, NCV

The Bible is very sensitive and aware of the difficulties of loneliness

Many in its pages, must deal with the sense of being left alone. We’ll encounter this awful thing before our day is done.  To be alone, isolated, and separated brings us a ‘solitary confinement‘ of our hearts.  That difficult confinement will never be easy.

There’s also a place where the Lord orders us to be quarantined. In order to deal with certain sins, He will purposefully isolate us from others. Believe it or not, our sinful attitude can spread to others. I have seen this and have experienced it for myself.

Both David and Paul were often lonely. 

King David looked around and found nobody that he could be with.  He felt like a solitary bird when all had flown away.  The apostle Paul knew true abandonment.  Everyone had left him by himself in this difficult spot. The reality is, we need others.  And often, too often, this is withheld from us, and we’re somewhat vulnerable.

Jesus knew what it was like to be terribly lonely. 

“You will leave me alone, but I am never really alone because the Father is with me”  (read John 16).  I often think He spent all that time in prayer, to somehow connect with His Father because of loneliness.  It seems Jesus had a deep need to be understood.

Loneliness can be redeemed. 

It very often can spur us into a deeper awareness of the Spirit.  As a point of bruised weakness, it can bring us to a sense of His deep love for us.  It will probably not change the situation, but it can change our hearts.

Loneliness is one of our Lord’s favorite tools in restoring our hard hearts.  It has a wonderful capacity to do things in us, that none of  His other ways would work.  It can be the perfect mechanism for Him to deeply touch us.  And He will not hesitate to use it.

Often there can be a severe loneliness as we move toward Him. 

This is acquired loneliness that comes when we start separating ourselves from the World.  Few or any will understand you, or why you are doing this.  To follow Jesus, is to become like Him.  If He struggled at times with loneliness, so will you.

I have nothing at all to say to those who want to escape this bitter misery.  I can say no ‘magic words’ that will lift you out of this pain.  I do understand, I really do.  All I can tell you is that He is wildly and passionately in love with you.  If everyone forsakes you and leaves you standing alone in a tight spot, He will be there.

“For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”  

Hebrews 13:5

Author: Pastor Bryan Lowe

Studying God's Word is my joy. I want you to understand that there is nothing greater than a life given to Him. I'm an ordained pastor who lives in Alaska.

5 thoughts on “Loneliness is Real”

  1. Bryan, As I read this I thought of Jesus crying out on the cross, “My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?” That cry, to me, reveals how Jesus knew the greatest loneliness of all. Because He knows that loneliness, He understands how we feel when we are lonely. Peace, Linda


  2. Bryan, I discovered your blog just a couple of days ago when Googling for something entirely unrelated. Thank you for writing. I have ongoing battles with depression, and I have close friends and family who suffer from mental illnesses and all the stigmata thereof. My bipolar friend has only recently “come out” to some of the people in her church, and it has been a mixed bag, as you might expect. (I have, of course, referred her to your blog.)

    I wonder if I could request a minor modification. I would LOVE to read your entire blog from top to bottom, but I obviously can’t do it all at once. If you could add a link to monthly archives (similar to the categories link you already have) that would help latecomers like me get caught up. I think WordPress has this capability built in.

    Again, thank you for writing. Blessings to you and yours.


    1. Hi Carolyn,
      Welcome to the blog, and I will make the adjustment asap. I never took this ability very seriously, but it makes sense the way you explained it.

      True Blessings,


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