“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—
For your love is better than wine.
3 Because of the fragrance of your good ointments,
Your name is ointment poured forth;
Therefore the virgins love you.
4 Draw me away! “
Song of Solomon 1:2-4
“Dear God, I think about you sometimes even when I am not praying.”
Elliot, “Children’s Letters to God”
It may seem heretical, but it seems that spiritual growth is being reduced to ‘bullet points’ of a presentation. And that really does scare me. We are looking to fall into a trap ‘head over heels’ right into a place that has promised so much, and yet delivers so little. We have been reduced to a mindset of which the ‘disciplines’ of the Christian life have become formulaic, and robotical. Somehow, we are missing the purpose as our discipleship begins to grow hard and slowly turns to stone.
But a kiss, on the other hand, is undefinable; it can’t be quantified and defies rules.
I fear the formula, and repudiate the rules. I am disturbed that our discipleship can become self-moving, self-regulating, self-starting.
When will realize that Jesus is looking for lovers? Somehow we think we can extract romance, diminish intimacy and choose to walk mechanically through life. We are losing our created and given purpose to be in close fellowship with Him.
There is a monstrous industry in all of this, a callous system. With the absence of an intimacy with Jesus, the following will actually become dangerous.
- formulas, counselors, life-coaches
- training programs,
- media: books, podcasts, TV
- conferences, prophetic worship
- magazines, “special” books
- inspirational speakers, favorite Bible teachers
- and even websites, (like this one!)
We often turn to them to get what we think we need. The delusion is that we can become moral and true, without an intimacy with Jesus. I guarantee this, without a deep intimacy with Him, these “things” will invariably disappoint us. But truly, we seldom do intimacy well.
Authentic growth will not happen overnight. Many get so disappointed, and disillusioned that they just quit walking and become hardened aand very unhappy. They may or may not become apostate. The Lord sees them, and loves them at a distance.
We can’t use the above list, but the Holy Spirit can. He uses these things, but there can never be confusion on who is working. I must relate to Him and strengthened in His strength. I must be as intimate as I can in His presence.
There can never be an authentic spirituality, without a real romance with Jesus. We must be taken up with Him and enthralled. We must recover the “courtship of the Lord.” Prayer starts to become a passionate tryst, and worship an affair of the heart. This where we meet begin to meet him directly, and authentically.
For good people, God is a religion. For the saints he is a kiss and an embrace.
Passion, and not principles (even if they are noble ones) will carry the day. It’s about desperation, not obligation. I will be the first to admit that these maybe these differences seem subtle and trivial, but they’re not. Romance brings roses to a rendezvous, with a passionate and openly declared ‘first love.’ Yet so often we shuffle in and grovel to bring our list of things we need or want. Few be the lovers, that find true contentment and freedom and real peace when they are alone with their Beloved.